One of the first rules of being a good sub is silence. Your master doesn’t want to hear your opinion. You need to start practicing speaking less. If you never had experience with dom/sub relationships, you might want to start slow.

Naturally, you shouldn’t do anything that you don’t want to do. Subs are not doormats, and not a single dominant would desire that. Dominants wish for someone who truly wants to be owned. Some people enjoy the feeling of helplessness and lack of control. They love passing the baton and letting someone else do all the work while they just serve. But you should know that doms have a huge responsibility on their own. It is not easy to be a dom, and your job is to make it possible and enjoyable for both.

More importantly, when we say listen, we mean everything and not just what the dom says. You should also observe the body language and everything your dom does. Everyone loves different things, and everyone is unique. Some doms enjoy bratty subs that just beg for punishment, while others require unquestioned worship. You will need to listen to your partner so both of you can enjoy the relationship.

Furthermore, you must retain from asking questions while in the role. You are not the one that should talk about what they think or what they should do. There is a person in charge, and yours is to obey.

By taking the role of a true submissive, bottom male, you decide to allow your dom to make all the decisions. So, no — you shouldn’t have an opinion, suggestion, idea, or anything. The whole point of power dynamics in a dominant/submissive relationship is that one person will have all the control and power, while others will have none.

You should remember that your job isn’t to make your dom’s life harder, but easier. You need to subdue the urge to rebel or object to something if you truly aim to be a good sub. That applies to both private and public life, in and out of the bedroom. You are obligated to do anything your dom desires. Naturally, subs are not perfect, and they will make a mistake from time to time, which might lead to punishment. If this happens, you should accept your disciplinary action willingly.

Being a sub is a lifestyle. Sometimes, relationships require 24/7 dedication, and your job is to do your part for everything to run smoothly. Remember that you are someone else’s property and that you should take care of yourself. Just because you are submissive, doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t live healthy, get enough sleep, or take care of your body. In the end, you want what’s best for your dom.